So, you have decided to fight that fear of public speaking that has plagued you since the high school and stand up in front of all those you hold near and dear and give a speech on your wedding day. The thought of doing this might make you feel a little queasy and perhaps make you think that the whole big white puffy dress, flowers everywhere, friends lined in up in matching dresses idea is wrong on too many levels to contemplate.
Never fear! You can do it.
Many people struggle with a fear of public speaking, you are not alone. There are steps you can take to calm these fears and deal with them. Think about it logically, what is the worst thing that can happen to you standing in front of a room full of people who love you and want nothing but your happiness?
Really all we are talking about is a few minutes in a day that is all about you and what you want. How bad can that be?
The first thing that you must do is plan ahead. As you madly dash around arranging all the myriad details involved in your special day, jot things down as they come into your mind. Did your maid of honor go beyond the call of duty in helping you?
Did dad hand you his credit cards and say, “go for it”? If you write these things down as they happen it will be easier to compile the requisite list of thank yous that are a part of every bride’s speech.
It will also be nicer because you will have personal touches to add rather than just a laundry list of people who you need to thank.
Once you have written your speech and all the plans and work have come to fruition and you are actually standing there ready to deliver it, take a deep breath and remember what this is really all about. Stand up straight, make eye contact with your audience.
Remember these people are here to share your special day; they are not grading your performance. They are happy for you and want to hear how happy you are.
Speak loudly enough to be heard and keep in mind that you aren’t on the clock. Speak slowly and clearly..
While appropriate hand gestures and body language can add to your presentation, excessive movement and nervous fluttering only makes your audience uncomfortable.
Timing is another important thing to consider. The later you deliver your heartfelt thanks and sentiments, the less likely that your audience will listen critically.
Do try to make sure that you give your speech before you knock back too many glasses of champagne though. The filter that we all have between what we think and what we say is seriously impaired by alcohol and you do not want to tell the audience more than what they want to hear.
The most important thing to remember is to enjoy talking to your audience. If you do, they will most likely enjoy listening to you. Isn’t that what really matters?
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