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If you want to learn hypnosis, then there are a few things that you should be aware of. First of all, hypnosis, like with any other skill, requires practice in order to get the hang of and eventually master. Unless you’re prepared to dedicate yourself to it, then don’t expect to make any real progress.

The amount of time each week that you should devote to practicing hypnosis is debatable, however if you can hypnotise at least one person every day, voluntarily of course, then you will be well on the way to buildling up your confidence within this field.

If you want to learn covert hypnosis, then you’ll need to understand how hypnosis can be applied discreetly, in interpersonal settings, outside of people’s conscious awareness. There’s no set guidelines that you can follow to ensure that hypnosis works, rather it’s something that you must simply keep peserversing at until eventually it pays off.

Hypnosis has a lot of myths surrounding it as well, particularly in relation to mind control. You cannot ever ‘control’ a person’s mind in the literal sense, as people will always be in control of their own thoughts and behaviour. What you can do however is influence the way people behave, but they must act upon this influence by their own free will.

So if you want to learn hypnosis, then know that it begins with practice. If you don’t practice what you’ve been taught throughout the various hypnosis courses on the internet and in real life, then you won’t really ever become proficient within the field.

Many people think that it’s somehow an easy, straight forward process. In reality however, the process can be a little difficult at first, even though eventually it will become second nature.

So go ahead and apply what you learn, and see how you progress with it. You may end up being quite surprised with the feats you can pull off when you learn hypnosis, as people will actually be performing actions they otherwise wouldn’t. Always remember however that this process can be explained by the person voluntarily doing what you say. This is also the case in covert hypnosis.

One last tip on your journey to learn hypnosis is to remain vigilant and ensure that you don’t ever misue the techniques you learn within hypnosis. Sometimes people will try and use hypnosis for their own personal gain, however this is never recommended, for obvious reasons.

The author of this article has a keen interest in hypnosis and has been researching the field for a number of years. He recommends the page on ways to learn hypnosis and others ways of how to learn hypnosis.

What is brain plasticity? And how is it related to developing an eating disorder?

Brain plasticity, or neuroplasticity, is the lifelong ability of the brain to change itself based on new experiences. When we say “the brains ability to change” we don’t mean something mystical or just “spiritual”.

What we are alluding to is the brains ability to reorganise or rewire its neuronal pathways that has lead to certain wanted or unwanted actions or behaviours. For example, in case of people suffering with eating disorders it is unwanted actions like negative thoughts about their body image that lead to the development of at ED. This could have manifested itself by starving, overexercising or binging and purging over a period of time.

When people start having bad thoughts and feelings about themselves their brain begins to develop certain new neuronal wiring (or connections) to produce certain behaviours. When people continue to acting on pathological behaviours like starving, binging-purging, over exercising etc: these neuronal pathways grow stronger and stronger. Basically it is what you think is what you get.

You see any behaviour we have or regular thoughts we think there are certain brain maps developed and pathways formed. These new brain maps can start to take up a huge amount of space in our brain until they become all powerful. Eating disorders take up a huge amount of space in the brain because they affect nearly all aspects of the sufferer’s life.

So, when it comes to eating disorder treatment if it does not work on changing the old neuronal pathways it is not going to work. What has to happen is for the sufferer to develop new neuronal pathways and build them around the old faulty pathological ones that is their ED. When you start using these new pathways (the healthy pathways) they become stronger and stronger and eventually they will replace the old pathological ones (the old pathological ones will fade).

You see, when you realise that it is your brain making you do things in a defective way, you will understand that to create behavioural change you only need to make your brain work differently. And you can do that by focusing your attention differently when the ED urge strikes you.

The capacity of the brain to change doesn’t diminish with age or with the duration of the problem you have. Many people think that it is easier to stop an eating disorder early on when the disorder first appears; and that if you have had the disorder for many years it is nearly impossible to stop it.

This is not true and is totally false. People can stop their eating problems at any stage of the process, because the human brain is plastic and changeable with any repetitive activity we do. Now it does take effort to change the way you think but it is not impossible.

The first thing is to come to the realisation that what your brain is telling you to do may not be correct so there is no need to act on it every time. Your brain is not your mind and you can influence it with better thoughts and actions.

Your brain is only an organ sitting between your ears. But your mind is what you do, what decision you make, and what perception about yourself you give to others. Of course this does not mean you have an abnormal brain, it is only the abnormal thoughts and behaviours that have lead you to having an ED. It has been proven beyond doubt that your mind, your conscious behaviours and thoughts can change the structure of your brain.

To conclude, eating disorders are the result of brain’s ability to change its own structure in relation to false actions and thoughts over time. Because you have changed your brains wiring to fit a certain pathological behaviour in your brain map you have developed an ED. You have responded negatively to certain eating disorder triggers that you have built around you over time.

You probably would have never developed an eating disorder if you had responded differently to these triggers. For instance: if you did not get upset when someone at school called you “fat” or if you didn’t care when your ex-boyfriend dumped you for a skinnier girl, or a similar event. You would probably never have an eating disorder now. But because you did pay too much of attention to it, you have to suffer for a long time.

But it is not all bad news. The good news is that because your brain is plastic you can change your brain to the better: exactly the same way you changed it when you developed the faulty pathological behaviour in the first place. With focused attention, mindfulness and by building new neural pathways around the old ones, research has shown you can change you brain and hence your ED.

This is the only cure for eating disorders - to change your brain using your mind to reverse your old thought patterns that got you into this mess in the first place.

Dr Irina Webster MD is the Director of Women Health Issues Program which covers different areas of Women Health. She is a recognised authority in the eating disorders area. She is an author of many books and a public speaker. To learn more about brain plasticity and eating disorders go to http://www.eatingdisorder-cure.com

Covert hypnosis is a form of hypnosis that is quite complex and contains a number of ways to discreetly hypnotise people.

One of the main things to be aware of with covert hypnosis is that it’s not just a matter of having people do anything you tell them to, but rather it’s making people actually have a genuine desire to do things you tell them.

This want is essential because if people don’t have a desire to please you, then odds are they will only do what you say if they feel that they absolutely must. It’s much easier to use covert hypnosis on people when they’re wanting to do things for you, as you don’t need to formally induce the person into a trance as you would with more conventional forms of hypnosis.

One of the things that hypnotists find confusing is what’s known as discreet suggestion. This is an area that many people fail in when trying to apply covert hypnosis in discreet settings. Some hypnotists may even believe that covert hypnosis isn’t possibly, simply because for whatever reason they haven’t properly implemented the techniques used in covert hypnosis.

As you gain experience within this field, the planting of suggestions, and making people act upon those suggestions, becomes an easier and easier process. Eventually covert hypnosis doesn’t become that difficult at all, and discreet suggestions can be planted within just about any interpersonal setting imaginable, even on large groups or small groups of people.

Confidence is another key aspect to covert hypnosis. If you have confidence in your abilities, then you will omit a sort of subconscious confidence that people will be able to relate to, and they will be willing to act upon just about anything you say.

Confidence is a way of indicating to people that you know what you’re doing, and that you can achieve certain goals. For as long as people perceive you to have this form of confidence, then they’ll be more willing to act upon your suggestions, even though this realisation stems from a subconscious level.

So practice is really the key to not only buildilng your confidence with covert hypnosis, but it’s also the key to refining your techniques and finding out exactly what works and what doesn’t.

Don’t expect your techniques to all instantly work the first time you do them. You may find yourself making little additions or alterations to them so that they can be applied in various settings. For instance, one form of covert hypnosis may work in a nightclub, whilst it will not work in some other setting such as at a shopping mall. You would need to modify the techniques slightly to apply covert hypnosis to the shopping mall setting.

The author of this article has a keen interest in hypnosis and has been researching the field for a number of years. He recommends you check out ways to learn covert hypnosis and how covert hypnosis can be applied in discreet settings.

Depression is a debilitating illness that can completely disrupt a person’s life and makes them physically and emotionally miserable. Dealing with depression in children can be particularly heartbreaking and affects the entire family. Childhood is supposed to be a joyful happy time in life, free from depression and worry and all too often in this day and age that is just not the case. In order to deal effectively with depression in children it is important to understand what causes it as well as what steps can be taken to alleviate the depression and help the child have a happy childhood.

There are several factors that can lead to depression in children. A traumatic event such as the death of a family member, divorce, a move or abuse can be the root of the problem. These events can cause anyone to be depressed and the key to solving this kind of depression is helping the child to communicate their feelings, sympathizing with them and helping them find constructive ways to deal with their feelings. In the case of abuse, whether it is directed at the child or the child is the witness to it, the child needs to be removed from the abusive environment and then giving the proper counseling and support to deal with those very negative memories and feelings.

Sometimes depression has a physical source and is not directly related to the circumstances in the child’s life. This can be far more serious and difficult to handle. The parents or guardians must consider medication with great caution as this can lead to even worse problems later on. It is usually better to find the source of the problem and help the child learn some coping techniques. Often diet is a huge factor. Food allergies have been known to cause a variety of emotional problems in children from acting out and violence to depression and thoughts of suicide. When dealing with depression in children it is always a good idea to either visit an allergist or use a rotation diet to either determine what food allergies exist or eliminate this as a possibility. The allergic foods and any highly processed foods should be eliminated from the child’s diet.

Nutritional deficiencies are another common cause of depression in children. Improving the diet by including less processed food and more whole grains, fruits and vegetables is a good start. A good multi-vitamin and a fatty acid supplement such as flax seed oil or fish oil can also work wonders when dealing with depression in children. Generally, a combination of a healthy diet, proper rest and exercise along with good behavioral training, love and support will work wonders on alleviating childhood depression.

Ray Subs is a public relations consultant working to promote the Help Your Child with Anger Blog. For more information about dealing with depression in children visit the blog.

If you have ever tried finding a way to better yourself or to better your life, chances are you have come across millions of people who have had success with hypnosis. Of course most of these people won’t tell you that simply because they want to keep the “secret” all to themselves! Really, hypnosis is all about being persuasive in the way you act, things you do and the things you say. If you can talk to someone either face to face or have them actually hear your voice, you could potentially use hypnosis techniques on them.

I know this probably sounds like another new age wacky tactic, but it really works, and it’s a proven way to get what you want out of life. There’s a saying that the only people that trash ideas, are the ones that are too scared to even try them! Are you one of those people? The pros of hypnosis outweigh the cons by a mile, seriously.

You could literally listen to these audios available, turn around the next day, and utilize the tactics they give you in order to get exactly what you want out of people and out of life. Think of what this could do for you financially, especially if you own a business or you offer a product or a service. You could potentially make your business and your sales BOOM with satisfaction simply because you learned these top secret techniques in hypnosis! You can also use these hypnosis tactics on yourself in order to make yourself less shy and more outgoing, or less insecure and more confident.

I mean you have to admit it, confidence definitely makes a difference in both you personal and your business life. It gives you the extra “push” to know you really can achieve something rather than falling back and cowering behind everyone else as they become exceedingly successful and you just stay put, never moving forward because you are too scared to!

These programs can also do other things like help you overcome weight loss, stop you from smoking, help your insomnia and keep you from getting so stressed out about really small things in life! So, you can fix your life, and make it better. You can fix your business sense and become more successful. And you can potentially fix or change any other things in your life that may be wrong. What else could you ask for when looking at a program to join?

This author is a HUGE fan of Persuasion

This article discusses the impact of therapeutic health and psychology programs for drug rehabilitation. This article is for those seeking relief from addiction, poor health, and psychological problems.

Drug rehabilitation for Christians should include six goals: (1) Choice for patients, so that the treatment program is a good match (2) Program structuring that is compatible with the needs of the person undergoing addiction treatment and rehabilitation (3) Professionalism on the part of the therapeutic staff and health care providers (4) Licensure standards by the professionals and the health care institution (5) A core curriculum that teaches the value of sobriety, abstinence from drugs or alcohol; and (6) An increased role in rehabilitation by churches and houses of worship.

Choices for patients: Although it is true that there is flexibility in programs, some issues are non-negotiable. The terms and conditions are typically standard and prescribed. The idea that there is a quintisentially trendy or new wave program that involves no therapeutic work is generally a myth. Careful research is the key. Most program descriptions are carefully written, and most important, they reflect the views of the program founders and coordinators. So reading this material is essential.

Program structuring: The cultural and historical roots of Christian drug rehabilitation have their etiology in medicine and psychology. It comes as the result of study, research, service, and leadership in the field of addiction treatment and recovery. Cultural taboos may be pertinent also. The day-to-day experience of drug rehab is one of the most interesting and challenging things a person can do. A highly intellectual and demanding program should be considered by anyone interested in drug rehab.

Professionalism: Why are we so concerned about this? In the past a health professional or two have been known to take advantage of patients at their most vulnerable moments. Cases of sexual assault have occurred. These are rare, but worth noting. Addiction recovery places patients, especially patients of the opposite sex, in an extremely vulnerable situation.

Licensure: This is a critical issue. Knowing that the facility is in compliance with state and federal regulations is a great comfort. Licensed health professionals have demonstrated, via their licensure process, that they possess perseptive observation, careful analysis, and intensive thorough scholarly analysis skills which will assist the patient during treatment.

Core rehab curriculum: Today rehab programs across the country have implemented multi-faceted programs of drug addiction treatment. A strong core curriculum creates a strong addiction treatment program that serves clients well. Unfortunately, not all programs excel in their core curriculum, so it is important to review program offerings. For instance, if a person is addicted to alcohol, a meth rehab program may not be the best match.

The role of churches: Many changes have occurred in the past fifty years. As awareness of Christian rehab grew, more and more individuals have taken advantage of it. Christian churches, the moral authority for many individuals, involve themselves with their parishioners during treatment.

In summary, Christians seeking relief from addiction, poor health, or psychological trauma, will find that Christian rehabilitation for drug addiction may be a great help. Please consult the resources below.

Sobriety comes one step at a time. You are invited to continue learning about
Christian addiction treatment and how
Christian rehab for drugs can help you.

Well now you can! Did you know there are actually programs online that will teach you how to become more persuasive with mind control and hypnosis techniques? These programs come in the form of things like tapes, downloadable audio and e-books and they teach you everything you would, could or need to know about how to get everything you want out of life through mind control. Can you imagine the things you could receive out of something like this? This could work in your personal life, business life, love life, etc. You can actually “trick” people into doing whatever you want them to do or trick them into buying things from you, or whatever you want. Recently I was checking out something like this and I found one site in particular that offered three Cd’s such as:

CD1 - Underground Hypnosis Exposed
CD2 - The Roots of Covert Control
CD3 - Controlled Environment Hypnosis

All three of these Cd’s are the “magic” fix to all of your current problems and any other problems you might run into in the future. They can teach you techniques that you can use every once in awhile or hey, if you want to really go crazy and see if this really works, you can try it in all aspects of your life, in every situation, every single day. Heck I would try this just to see what I could get away with and how it would change my life in a positive way! In these recordings, you will discover exactly how “Black Ops Hypnosis” works and how you can put it to work for you … in any situation. Read my lips, ANY situation.

Here are a few key points the program made for this product:

- Never wait in line again for anything. How to use group hypnosis and make people insist on letting you go first.

- How to magically fall asleep with NO trouble.

- Easily control any addiction like cigarettes or biting your nails (you will be in complete control of not only other people… but also yourself)!

- Discover how to use your “internal clock” with hypnosis. Imagine NEVER missing an appointment again… or waking up at ANY time you want without an alarm clock.

- And much more!

These programs really could be incredibly useful if you put them to use the right way and followed the actual Cd’s and did what they told you to do. With these “Black Ops” strategies, you will be capable of putting anyone in a trance …even if you just met them. And they won’t even know it. It doesn’t matter if they trust you. It doesn’t matter if they like you. As long as they can see or hear you, you can put them under hypnosis!

This author is a HUGE fan of Mind Control

Violence in the family is a major source of teen female violence. The future well-being of a society is directly linked to its ability to care for and educate its young. Families that cannot successfully care for their young, nurture the seeds of future violence and criminality. Until we learn this, we will continue to build more prisons at a much higher cost than treatment or prevention. Until we provide adequate services to support parents in caring for their children, we will not stop the cycle of violence.

Female violence and aggression appears to be on the rise and has several roots. Sources include:

– a history of abuse, neglect, and complex PTSD
– a history of economic disadvantage and social disorganization (Steffensmeier and Haynie, 2000).
– in response to stress and frustration (Campbell, 1993).
– Low level of skills to cope with stressors.
– Some women work in partnership with boyfriends or husbands who beat them if they do not cooperate (Katherine Ramsland, Court TV Crime Library, 2005).

Some women are impulsively violent, and some are methodically cruel. Elizabeth Epstein (2005) found that among the relationships of 109 alcoholic women, 61% reported some violence. This suggests unacceptable levels of violence in homes plagued with substance abuse. Men outnumber women as perpetrators of domestic violence (Dobash et al., 1992), while female and male rates of spousal murder in the US are very similar.

My study of female violence indicated that adult females with histories of aggression had moderate to severe behavior problems that began before the age of 13, assault of an authority figure, impulsivity, delinquency, running away from home, substance abuse, belief in the legitimacy of aggression as a means to an end, very poor or very good, but superficial (glib) social skills, attachment problems, few pro-social peers, behavior problems at school, home or work, lack of success in school, job, or as a home maker, family violence and low warmth in the family of origin, lack of appropriate boundaries in family of origin or present family, and parent(s) with untreated or ineffectively treated psychiatric or substance abuse problems.

In addition to those traits, women with severe assaults had escaped from a facility, run away from home, and had bullying behavior. A third of those with chronic assaults lacked remorse, and had positive attitudes toward antisocial behavior, deviant peers, and excessive absenteeism from school or work. Additionally, it appears that the number and the severity of traumas experienced by a woman as a child, placwe her at risk for using aggression in relationships.

Females are most likely to kill a spouse (19% of victims of female homicide), a friend/acquaintance (17%), or a boyfriend or girlfriend (10%) and least likely to kill an employee/er (.1%) or a sibling (1%) (BJS). Twelve percent of US homicide offenders (BJS) and 12% of identified serial killers are female (Newton, 2000). The motive for 41% of female serial killers is money. Substance abuse is more likely to be involved when an abused woman murders her abusive male partner.

Aileen Wuornos, a prime example of female violence, was born in Michigan in 1956. Aileen’s childhood was full of abandonment and despair, and the killings and molestations taking place around her as a youngster foreshadowed a life in prostitution and murder that would later unfold. Aileen was never able to form an attachment to a peer group nor have the capacity to formulate empathy for others. She ended up confessing to six murders, claiming and then refuting she committed them in self-defense.

Before Aileen even met her biological father, he served time in prison for molesting a child and later hung himself in his cell. Her mother left Aileen and her brother, Keith, with the children’s maternal grandparents when Aileen was only 4 years old. Having given birth to her children as a teenager, Aileen’s mother lamented that they were “crying, unhappy babies.” At age 6 Aileen suffered facial burns while setting fires with lighter fluid.

Aileen later revealed that she had sex with her brother at a young age (a claim that is not verified). She was often truant from school and was pregnant at age 14. In this same year, her grandmother went into violent convulsions and died-there was suspicion that Aileen’s grandfather was to blame.

Aileen soon entered a bleak existence of hitchhiking and prostitution, picking up several charges of drunk and disorderly behavior and assault (Court TV’s Crime Library, 2005). She was later charged, convicted, and executed for the murder of six men with whom she had sex.

The research literature clearly shows that at least one source of female violence is the exposure to neglect, abuse and domestic violence as a child. Early identification and intervention to support the health of violent families is essential to stop the intergenerational cycle of family violence.

Additionally, most mothers who kill their children are psychotic, under stress, isolated, have long histories of mental illness, and have been abused or exposed to domestic violence as children. We can no longer ignore these precursors. As a society, we must intervene early with therapy and family supports for all families exposed to domestic violence.

The more risk factors that a female has in her life and the fewer the resiliency factors the higher the risk that she will use aggression to get her needs met. Helping these women involves assessing all possible areas needing intervention and providing the appropriate types and levels of service to meet the woman’s needs.

Treating aggresion is complex and requires many facets. If social and moral reasoning skills are delayed, as they often are in traumatized households, skill building must be addressed and taught for all family members. Family therapy may be needed. Additionally, all agencis working with the family need to communicate frequently and work together for the best interests of the family.

Dr. Kathryn Seifert has over 30 years experience in mental health, addictions, and criminal justice work. She has authored the CARE and numerous articles. Dr. Seifert has lectured internationally on youth and family violence and trauma. Dr. Kathy Seifert

Self-esteem is how well you think of yourself. It is important to children and adults, alike. Self-esteem is believing and caring as much for yourself as you do other people. It is believing that you are competent and good. It’s being as kind to yourself as you would be to someone else.

Some people care more for others than they do themselves. They feel that others are taking advantage of them, but they feel unable to speak out or to say, no. It is time for them to take back control of their lives and raise their self-esteem. It is good to do things for others, but put reasonable limits on it and leave some energy for yourself. If you feel yourself getting angry and resentful, you may be doing too much for others and not feeling appreciated. This could be a sign that you need some time to take care of your own needs. Do a little fact finding and you may want to some adjustments.

The way in which you were raised can affect your self-esteem. If your childhood discipline was harsh or shaming, you might have learned to not believe in yourself. You may find it difficult to express your needs and your opinions easily. This leads to low self-esteem. However, firm but loving discipline raises children who feel good about themselves and others. They are kind to themselves and others and balance time for others and time for self. They can ask for what they want, knowing that others are not obligated to give and they can say “no” when things get to be too much.

Our childhood memories were seen and are remembered through our “child’s eyes”. Did you know as much as a child as you do as an adult? No, of course you didn’t. What you know as an adult can reorganize memories into more appropriate patterns. Revisiting them through adult eyes can reframe the memory, so that you no longer take responsibility for actions and events over which you had no control. You can also see your childhood mistakes as part of the growing up process that we all went though, rather than something which marked you as not as good as everyone else.

I sometimes think about a first grader learning to write. He is going to make lots of mistakes and do a lot of correcting. That’s how we all learn and life’s little lessons are no different. Making mistakes, taking feedback from others, and using the new information is how we learn and mature. Look through mistakes for that little seed of knowledge that lies within. Learn from it and move on.

On the other end of the scale, some people care more for themselves than for others. That is not self-esteem, it is self-absorption. Balance between the needs of the self, the needs of the community, and the needs of other individuals is what is needed.

Do you need a self-esteem booster shot? There are many things you can do to consciously raise your self-esteem.

1. Take good care of yourself. Do nice things for yourself that bring you pleasure. Do as much for yourself as you would a good friend.

2. Learn to say “no” when saying “yes” is not in your best interest. Balance what you do for others and what you do for yourself. Realize that you are just as important as others are. Let others take care of their own needs more often. Life involves give and take. Both are important.

3. Be active in a civic or social organization in your community. This gives you opportunities to help your community and to realize the valuable skills that you have to offer.

4. Use positive affirmations or positive self-talk every day. Make a list of your positive traits and put it on the refrigerator. Read them several times a day. Put a post-it note on your mirror that says “I like me.” or “I’m a good person” or some similar phrase. Say the phrase out loud several times a day.

5. Every time you criticize yourself, Balance automatic negative self-evaluations with positive ones. Accept your mistakes as a learning process and make a commitment to change.

6. Remind yourself that you are a good person and that you have a lot to offer. Cherish yourself and your positive traits as much as others do.

7. Take what you have learned about life and “pass it on”.

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When my daughter was two, we lived in a house with a mural on the bathtub wall. It was a Polynesian scene with a palm tree and some strange looking Tiki figures. One day, for some reason, she became terrified of the scene and refused to take a bath. I tried everything I knew to no avail. She was adamant about not stepping into the tub and became hysterical if anyone tried to coax or force her.

This went on for many weeks, and I was concerned about keeping her clean. At that time, I had read a wonderful book written by a famous psychiatrist who used to meet with groups of mothers to guide them in parenting. He seemed so compassionate and wise that I wrote him a letter telling him of my problem. His reply to me was simply to wait and not worry. He said her fear would disappear one day, and so it did.

However, I remember to this day how worried and frustrated I felt. I was powerless to convince my toddler she was safe or take away her fear. A few weeks ago I was visiting my daughter, now an adult with children of her own. It was bath time, and my two and a half year-old grandson refused to take his bath. He was not budging! Grandpa and I were sitting on the couch playing with him. Instead of trying to persuade, trick or bargain with him, we simply started to use a simple new acupressure method called EFT on ourselves as we sang a song to him about his dilemma.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques,) consists of gently tapping on eight acupressure points that relax and raise the serotonin in the brain to release fear. Touch or tap each point for three seconds starting on the outer edge of the hand under the little finger, then the eyebrow near the nose, the side of the eye socket, under the eye, under the nose, under the lower lip, under the collarbone, and on the side of the body four inches below the armpit.

With small children, an adult can focus on the tot’s problem and tap as a stand-in for the little one. Grandpa and I were tapping on ourselves while saying, “Even though you don’t want to take a bath, no way, we love you very much.” Then, as we gently tapped I sang, “No, no, no, I won’t go!” Every once in a while, I would gently tap my grandson’s collarbone point or the eyebrow point in a tickly way. We sang about hating to take a bath, not in the mood, no one’s going to make me, and whatever came to mind. He liked the “No, No, No” part a lot.

The brief EFT treatment lasted only a few minutes. Then, when his sister said that she was going in for their bath, he hopped down and went after her. He got right into the bathtub as if there had never been any problem. His resistance was gone for good.

If only I had EFT all those years ago when my daughter gave me such a hard time! It works like magic with children because it isn’t about reasoning with them, especially toddlers. EFT works on the brain by raising the serotonin. Serotonin does two things: it soothes us and it also erases fear reactions in the brain. That is why fears go away permanently.

When adults gently tap on the child, if they will allow it, or tap on themselves as they speak for the child about his fear, anger, sadness, etc., be sure to use simple language. I enjoy singing about the negative feelings to make them go away. Try it for the child you love and you will make those “terrible twos” become “terrific twos.”

Gloria Arenson, MFT, treats stress, anxiety, trauma, phobias, and compulsions. She has authored How to Stop Playing the Weighting Game, A Substance Called Food, Born To Spend, Five Simple Steps to Emotional Healing, Freedom At Your Fingertips and Procrastination Nation.
http://www.GloriaArenson.com